The last month or so I have been resisting some things in my life that I am not happy about. How this shows up in my body is physical symptoms in my digestion and in tension that causes back aches. This of course creates greater resistance and irritation with everyday chores and responsibilities. Today I was reminded of the principal of surrender… one of those life lessons that comes up… and the principal of higher good.

I watched a short film called “A Monk’s Awakening” from Spiritual Cinema Circle, which reminded me never to surrender to fear. Never run after anything or try to escape anything is the lesson of the film. Of course if the universe isn’t timely… it also isn’t subtle. I got confirmation of this message in a Ralph Marston message today about seeing the positive possibilities that always come from what we think may be a negative and a message from the Universe to just be who I am and stop striving.

Hmmm… Uncle already! I get it… so here it goes… I am happy and blessed to have lost one financial support… I can now be open for many others! I am happy to have my son making his own choices and having the opportunity to live the consequences!

Where can you surrender to what is and see the blessing of a situation that at first blush… seems negative? What messages is the universe sending? What in your physical body shows up? What awakening and opening is available to you?

BE- Awakening

I learned something new this week from my son. He is twenty, not quite a babe, yet in some ways wise beyond his years. He was telling me of a situation in which he offended someone. It was pretty minor to begin with. Yet then there was about two and a half weeks when he did not have any contact with this person. He said in that time everything escalated and in her imagination his offense grew. His comment about it is what took me by surprise. I won’t use his colorful language here yet basically he said, “She must have spent all her time thinking about it, until it just magnified into something huge. Now I’m a ______”

Certainly that is what happens when offenses are given and/or taken that are not dealt with in a timely manner, they grow. Looking inside ourselves for keys to our conflict help us to minimize conflict and awareness how we create it.

Conflict certainly comes from inside, not outside of us. It is not what happens as much as it is about how we interpret what happens and what buttons are pushed that create conflict. If we know this we can begin to look within us for ultimate healing. You see if my conflict is your fault, then I cannot do anything about it, -I am a victim. Yet, if my conflict is mine, I have the power to create it and have the power to let it go. I am accountable for my results.

That is rather simplistic, getting rid of conflict is not always so easy. In order to stop conflict in it’s tracks here are some recommendations. 1) As far as is possible, live at peace with everyone. Give nobody reason to seek conflict, be a person of integrity. 2) Be willing to handle conflict with a face to face meeting quickly, don’t let it get magnified in your mind or in another’s. 3) Be tender-hearted realizing that people have conflict buttons in them that cause them real pain. Be patient with their unreasonableness. 4) Use conflict as a lesson to look deeply at what is driving you and where you are in need of healing.

To good health, relationships and healing for all,

BE (Being in Excellence)