Purpose and Vision Coaching

Barriers to performance hold us back from being who we want to be, doing what makes us happy and having what we want in our lives. When we recognize our barriers then we can move through them. The first step in change is awareness: seeing what is holding us back. Next we get to identify how this behavior still works for us, then we can decide what possibilities are open to us if we change it and choose something else.

Our barriers allow us to stick with our stories, excuses, and justifications and the same results. We all have our stories. Einstein told us that the definition of insanity is doing the same things expecting different results. Barriers show up in our bodies (stomach, head, nerves), in our language (should, Have to, always, never, could), in our attitudes (complaining, apathy), in negative self talk and in our behaviors.

Take a few moments and look at the list and notice which barriers show up in your life.

Dissociation, apathy
Playing the Con, exaggerating, manipulating,
Self-righteousness, feeling superior, judgmental
Playing the Victim, accusing, blaming
Feeling Regret, worthless
Doubt, self-doubt, doubting others
Confusion
Resentment, revenge motivated
“Trying” never fully committed
Lacking Follow-through, breaks promises
Cynicism, chronic mistrust
Resignation, giving up
Hopelessness, worrying/hoping about future or the past
Excusing, explaining, defending, justifying

Some ideas to ponder – What is my pay off? How does it support me? Do I still want it in my life? What resource state can I choose instead?

Example: confusion is one of my favorite barriers to performance, when I am in confusion I do not have to take action therefore I get to blame others for my situation. I don’t want this, since I am not happy when I am confused and a victim. A resource state is to focus on what I want and take one step toward that today.

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